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JJ's Year Of Destiny- Day 40-Wrote a Song About It, Wanna Hear It...Here it Go!

Scared? Do it anyway... -jj thames.  
Pricilla Shirer once said that whenever fear surrounds something...typically that is the very thing that you need to explore doing. Fear will keep you from your destiny. God doesn't use fear to guide us.
I have been scratching my head on how to begin my record.
as you know...I write/sing my truth.
I have to be in the makeup chair in 3 hours, to prepare for my photoshoot for my upcoming record, Raw Sugar. But, I can't sleep.
My show was amazing last night...I had an high off of it for a while...slappin myself up fives...but, I felt this niggling in my soul...An tinglng of my writers spidey sense, I knew what was coming. A "heart" song. I tried to ignore it.

But, I haven't been able to dismiss this cadence in my head.
I have tried and tried to move it out of my brain...
like a 2 year old kicking and screaming...laying on the floor in the supermarket... "I don't wanna..."
I don't wanna sing this son…

JJ'S YEAR OF DESTINY DAY 30- The Clean Up Woman

Time to let go... put pictures away... cover up my tattoo, yeah the one I got of you to prove my love... you said you'd give me your last name. but all you wanted, was my sweet love and to suck up my precious time... opened my eyes... opened my eyes.... he was sposed to be foolish over me  on his white horse  comin' to rescue me make me his queen, but now I see the only fool  the only fool was me.  -jj thames "The Only Fool Was Me"  from my upcoming new record "Raw Sugar"
is a bad frikkin day...
yet, another one that I didn't even bother getting out of bed. 
Dominos delivered...
and my phone has been on silent. 
I want to call somebody....but, I'm tired of talking about it. So, I figured it was a good time to write myself through the moment. 
Whenever the feelings arise...I know that they are coming, because there's this foreboding gloom that descends on my visage...Almost how I guess it would feel for a chronic epileptic to know that a grand mal seizure is o…

JJ'S YEAR OF DESTINY- DAY 28- Girl, You Be Illin'

Just when you think you've got it all figured out...something else changes... If you've learned all there is to ever learn about life and all of its is time to die. So just live and let yourself live...give yourself a break...stop beating yourself up when you're less than perfect. Get over yourself, and your finite view of who you are, and should be...take a deep breath...embrace your tiny, frail, imperfect humanity...stand in awe of your big perfect God...bask in the joy of merely being alive. He has a plan for your life that's gonna blow. your. mind. If you'll just get outta the way.  -jj thames.
I started this blog for me...
for me to discover, heal, help, love, soothe, understand, document, purge, hear direction for, and
well, I am amazed, humbled, and touched at how many people have found solace, inspiration, humor, and wisdom in my posts...
however, I realized something...
I started to get stressed out about this blog.
Like...everyday, t…

JJ's YEAR OF DESTINY- DAY 14- Sum'n Like a BO$$!

The Promised Land is so grand- full of dynamic purpose, hope and destiny. Unfortunately, some people just can't matter how badly you want them to...they don't want it badly enough for themselves. They willingly close their eyes to the vision of freedom and prosperity. They'd rather continue grumbling, complaining, and wandering in the desert. Don't fight their right to be mediocre. Keep marching forward. Take hold of your amazing future! -jj thames.

This time last year, I was saying my vows, and looking deep into my new husband's eyes...promising to love, cherish and honor him for the rest of my life. We slow danced, ate cake,had an amazing gourmet brunch- maybe a couple too many mimosas, and retired to our beautiful suite at the Peabody Hotel in Memphis. My heart was full of joy and hope for the future. This year, Instead of laying on the white sandy beach in the Bahamas soaking in the sunshine and beautiful cerulean water, like we were supposed to be at th…


"You can't just lay down and let life happen to you... you have to DO life...and do it big. You're the boss...You determine how you're going to survive... pushing back or being run over...ride the waves, or let them drown you." -jj thames. Yesterday was Thanksgiving...and was probably one of the worst days of my life... Thanksgiving/Christmas/The New Year/Valentine's Day all have been attached to very unsavory memories... My mother's death, my child's diagnosis and death the following year, now a divorce...(this time last year, we were celebrating with family members and preparing for our wedding in 3 days, now we are separated, waiting for the mandatory waiting period to be over, and divorce to be final, and completely excommunicated- what amazing things can happen in a year.) sideeye* Then there are the many very lonely holiday experiences throughout the years  (my birthday is in July and that ones a doozy too! One year- EVERYBODY forgot...(I never me…

JJ's YEAR OF DESTINY- DAY 9- Getting to Know You, Getting To Know All About You

God is not pretentious...that's us...He just wants to be our friend, and for us to come and talk to Him like we do our best friends. He wants us to tell Him our thoughts, dreams, hearts desires, pains, plans and the like...even though He already knows. He's just so...everything wonderful...when you get to know Him. -jj thames.
The poem below is one that I wrote in 2009, and genuinely was the beginning of my relationship with God...When I learned to let go of the formality, and just told the truth. Best thing I've ever done...enjoy! 
Hey God, It's me...for real this time. By jj thames.
Hey God, it me...for real this time. Don't strike me down, I'm puttin it all on the line. Shoot straight from the hip, all liquor no chaser. No pretense, no formulas, no strainers, no shakers. I feel bamboozled, led astray, put aside... These people who say they know you, their checklists I've tried. I'm starting to see, starting to believe that they are all jacked up and …

JJ's YEAR OF DESTINY- DAY 8- Get 'Er Dunn!

Everyday's a holiday- jj thames. 
Them: Hey ya doin? Me: Everyday's a* Them: I guess...twisted lips*..eyebrow raised*
When I greet people, this is usually my response...even when my world is seemingly crumbling around me-my answer very seldom changes...I may not have done some...scratch that...A WHOLE HEAP of things right...but, one thing that I did knock out of the ballpark was relentlessly followed my dream to be a recording artist...All of the blood, sweat, and tears are finally paying off...and I LOVE MY LIFE.  EVERYDAY IS A HOLIDAY!!! (pick one)
This won't be a long post...I have to go sing in a, I'll make my ramblings concise... -bottom the life you love, and love the life you live! 
Are you miserable at that 7-3, 8-4, 9-5?? or whatever increments of time that you are required to work? Do you live for the weekend?? There is a life that you can live where EVERY SINGLE wake up, and feel like its a holiday. Not…

JJ's YEAR OF DESTINY- DAY 7- Tell the Truth, Shame the Devil

I have too many song lyrics, prose, dreams, and plans bouncing around in my mind, and drink too much wine to lie to you...I've fought tooth and nail to love and accept myself, so, what you see, is what you get. Don't want the truth? Don't ask me. I won't stop living out loud, or freely living my truth for anyone.  -jj thames.
Those of you who have been following my blog, Facebook posts, and/or music career for any amount of time know that I have no secrets, nor do I have any shame...I am who I am...I do not apologize for my past, present or dreams for my future. I learn from all of it, and I share my discoveries freely...I do not embarrass easily, if at all. (you can ask my band members about that-I've taken a few tumbles off of stage, only to climb back up, and keep the party going. One time, I fell on stage and couldn't get up without showing all my goodies, so I sat on the floor in my mini dress, crossed my legs and finished singing the rest of the song sitti…

JJ's YEAR OF DESTINY- DAY 6- When It Hurts So Bad, Whys It Feel So Good?

"72 hours of hard labor is what it took to get my son here.
No matter how hard I fought to not feel it- I had to surrender to the deep contractions that wracked my body to the core. 
15 years later...I remember the experience....but, I feel none of the pain.
Yet, I can still feel the awe of when he was placed in my arms. 
It was all worth it.
When I come out of this hard labor...this soul crushing thing...
I will remember the journey...but I will feel none of the pain.
When I look back at this dark spot in my history. 
I will stand in awe at where God brought me from and to...
I will give birth to my new future. 
This breaking, my surrendering- will all be worth it-
When I hold my dreams close to my heart." -jj thames.
Today, in my humanity...I feel weaker than ever. But, in my spirit...I am full, big, fulfilled ...satiated. As sleep tugs at my eyelids...I know that when I lay down, I will have one of the most peaceful sleeps that I've had in months. Today, another layer …