"No more bad boys...
like...ever.
my jerk quota has been filled.
I'm not in 1st grade anymore, punching me in the arm, pulling my hair and pushing me to the ground ain't cute anymore.
It now is grounds for an arrest.
Shirking responsibility, reckless behavior, and defying authority isn't cool...it's stupid, and immature
Shirking responsibility, reckless behavior, and defying authority isn't cool...it's stupid, and immature
-grow up, already." -jj thames.
I am preparing to lead a small group at my church. I am really excited about it....
It's about dating.
cuz...dating sucks...
and being a Christian girl, and dating...sucks even more, cuz there's no sex involved, and I'm not talking about no 90 day waiting period either! (yeah, I said it.)
THAT slims down the sea of fish real quick... (Tuh! DON'T act like you've never been on that dating site *sideye*) We have all been catfished at one time or another.
I met a guy online once...he said he was 6'2"...Try 5'2"!!!! I wanted to punch him in the face for wasting my time...LIKE I WASN'T GONNA NOTICE! (I'm 5'9" by the way....awkward!!!)
I've had people ask me, "girl...you're ready to get back out there?" honestly...no...ESPECIALLY not the way I was before (the marriage and subsequent divorce). I don't want to go to bars and clubs, rubberneckin' to see who's checkin' for me, while fighting to keep my beverage covered from being rufied. I don't want to go out with the over confident guy that keeps licking his lips, and staring at my thigh and breast like its the Colonel's special recipe. (He can put his hand over here if he wants to, he will pull back a nub.) I refuse to go online...and fill out all those questionnaires to find my "perfect match", or sort through the "real christians" from those who just say that they are to get a date. I will not duck and dodge the vulgar or even worse, unimaginative copy/paste messages in my DM. (eg. "hello." "hey beautiful." "what's up?" "hi." etc.)
I don't know about you...but, I am so over the brooding, tattooed, rebellious, anti-organization, anti-authority, anti-common sense, anti-monogamy, anti-job losers that I have been attracted to for years. I finally have come to a place of understanding myself. I thought I could fix them. I thought I could change them. I thought I could love them enough for the both of us...then they would see what a treasure they had in me, and one day magically take me on a carpet ride like we were Princess Jasmine and Aladdin...show me the world...grant my wish to be pursued, loved, cherished, and adored. WRONG WRONG WRONG!!! DUMB DUMB DUMB FAIRY TAILED TAINTED, ROM-COM BAMBOOZLED CHILD!!! *facepalm*
Those days are behind me, GET THEE BEHIND ME, I say!! I now MUST have...the nice church guy (who actually loves, worships, and serves God, and PRAYS). Who wants to be my FRIEND, and wants to get to know me. Who actually LISTENS to me when I talk, and has something of substance TO SAY IN RESPONSE! Who opens doors, helps me out of my coat, pulls out chairs. Doesn't "forget' his wallet, and pays for dinner, pursues me by texting, and CALLING me first. Buys me flowers, takes note of what I like and don't like (I mean, ACTUAL notes on his phone.) says "please" and "thank you" and doesn't cuss, doesn't live with his dear old mama (or grand mama). Has a Roth IRA, an investment portfolio, multiple streams of income, and INSURANCE!! Has purchased a home, has his own OPERATING transportation. Doesn't have an insurmountable mound of debt, and a decent credit score. Doesn't have 15 babies by 16 baby mamas, hasn't been married 4 times, drug and disease free (and willing to take tests). Has a MENTOR, and WRITTEN DOWN plans for his future...Cares about being a blessing to others, including helping the less fortunate. Actually LIKES WOMEN! (in short, is not bigoted) Loves and respects his mama. Genuinely appreciates what other people do for him (Me included.) Can hold an intelligent conversation about basically anything! Tells the truth, at all costs...and DOES WHAT HE SAYS HE'S GONNA DO!!
"aww...JJ" I can hear ya'll scoffing all the way from here..."good luck! You'll never find all that in one guy!"
You're right...
He found me...and I wasn't even looking.
Never settle ladies...focus on loving God and yourself- becoming His best for your life, and POOF! "HIM" shall appear! Is this the "one"? I don't know...but, I can tell you he's real, he DOES exist...and if it never develops into anything more, I have one AWESOME friend, and a renewed faith in the "dating pool"! Besides, this, being told how beautiful I am, being treated like the lady that I am, told how much he loves my "servants heart", dazzling smile and sharp wit...being prayed with and for, and not PREYED ON... is a heck of a lot better than receiving wet willies and being farted on, and felt up (cheated on and lied to), any day. I think I'll stick with the good boys from here on out, thank you.
Ladies, if you would like to join us on our journey to becoming God's best while waiting on Mr. Right, Grab the book (Expanded Edition) "Lady In Waiting" by Jackie Kendall and Debby Jones. There will be a online facebook support group to interact with ladies just like you. There is hope, happiness, peace and love waiting for all of us. We start our journey on February 7th, 2016! email us
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Do not be deceived: "Bad company ruins good morals."
- 1 Corinthians 15:33
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