jj thames...naked.

"Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance. "  -Brene' Brown As you know (If you've been on this blogging journey with me for a while) November is when MY new year starts for some reason...I think it may have something to do with my biorhythms or something...but, major life changes ALWAYS happen for me starting in November. (I just moved back to NYC November 1st...this was not planned...I just happened to have a show here, and thought it would be a good time to do so...) So, although I know that we are 10 days into my New Year...this is day one of a new chapter in my blog (don't judge me, you don't know my life!) ... if you are new...welcome...fasten your seat belt, and enjoy the ride...I'll bring ya back! If you have been ridin' with me...lol...I hope you're not car sick...cuz, we are about to turn up t...

Just because you give birth to a child, doesn't mean that you own them or their futures. Teach a child your core values, and your faith...and let them soar. Stop trying to live two lives through your child. Your journey is not necessarily theirs. They have their own dreams, their own destinies, their own paths...their own lives to live. The very best gift that we can give our children is our unconditional love and support as they find themselves...they have a right to the pursuit of happiness, and to just be. They don't owe you anything... no matter how much you spent on them, nor how many hours you were in labor.  -JJ Thames I recall saying as a little girl that I didn't want any children, didn't want to get married...was going to live in the city in a high rise or a loft...own a nightclub/restaurant where I could sing whenever I wanted to, travel the world, make records, and be a writer...traditional life was never for me. Everyone told me I was crazy and t...

"No more bad boys... like...ever. my jerk quota has been filled. I'm not in 1st grade anymore, punching me in the arm, pulling my hair and pushing me to the ground ain't cute anymore. It now is grounds for an arrest. Shirking responsibility, reckless behavior, and defying authority isn't cool...it's stupid, and immature -grow up, already." -jj thames. I am preparing to lead a small group at my church. I am really excited about it.... It's about dating. cuz...dating sucks... and being a Christian girl, and dating...sucks even more, cuz there's no sex involved, and I'm not talking about no 90 day waiting period either! (yeah, I said it.) THAT slims down the sea of fish real quick... (Tuh! DON'T act like you've never been on that dating site *sideye*) We have all been catfished at one time or another. I met a guy online once...he said he was 6'2"...Try 5'2"!!!! I wanted to punch him in the face for wasting...

Time to let go... put pictures away... cover up my tattoo, yeah the one I got of you to prove my love... you said you'd give me your last name. but all you wanted, was my sweet love and to suck up my precious time... opened my eyes... opened my eyes.... he was sposed to be foolish over me  on his white horse  comin' to rescue me make me his queen, but now I see the only fool  the only fool was me.  -jj thames "The Only Fool Was Me"  from my upcoming new record "Raw Sugar" Today... is a bad frikkin day... yet, another one that I didn't even bother getting out of bed.  Dominos delivered... and my phone has been on silent.  I want to call somebody....but, I'm tired of talking about it. So, I figured it was a good time to write myself through the moment.  Whenever the feelings arise...I know that they are coming, because there's this foreboding gloom that descends on my visage...Almost how I guess it would fee...

"Live one moment at a time... sometimes a day is still just too long"   -jj thames. Today is the day that I took a step back, and said... "Whoa...Lord...do you know how long a year is?? That's...365 days!! 8,760 hours!! That's...that's...525,600 minutes!! 31,536,000 seconds!! and a bazillion, gagillion, moments!! Oh Lawd! What have I done??" I began to feel myself get light headed as I fanned myself, and instantly spiraled into loneliness, and despair...and kicked myself for making the lofty commitment. (Really felt like punching myself in the face) "Fix it Jesus!" is what I whispered maybe 8 or 9 times under my breath- but nothing changed. I had wrote it down, told my accountability partners...and made the promise to God. I'm stuck, and felt like throwing an all out 2-year-old-I'ma-embarrass-my-mama-in-the-store-fall-down-on-the-floor-knockin-stuff-offa-shelves-everybody-looking-at-her-like-you-need-to-whoop-your-ch...